Genshin Impact: What's It Like for a Meta Player and a Lore Player to Be Boyfriend and Girlfriend?

We enjoy even the same game in different ways but are nonetheless united.
Xingqiu = me; Collei = Alevius.
And yes, believe it or not, I don't like Chiori's personality. I'm surprised, though, that I got this epic shot in just one take.

You know what I notice in so many YouTube channels themed around HoYo games? They almost always feature one aspect of at least one of these games in their videos. You have lore channels (Ashikai, Minsleif, etc.), meta channels (Jello Impact, Zajef77, etc.), headcanon channels (Koomaxx, animation and comic dub channels), and other things. It's uncommon for one channel to combine two aspects at once in a balanced way...which is why I occasionally enjoy someone like saurusness explaining what they think about both lore and meta.

Introducing Myself in a Genshin Impact Context

What about me, though? I'd say I'm 55% meta, 25% lore, 20% headcanon. Yes, I know being a meta-heavy player is cliché given how male biology works. But when I was first introduced to Genshin Impact by ZeldaMaster (yes, a The Legend of Zelda YouTuber) and my friends BoltOLightnin and YoSquid back in October 2020, one major aspect of the game that got me so hooked is the elemental reaction system: mix various elements on a single enemy to achieve a special effect like adding or multiplying DMG, burning enemies alive, staggering and knocking them away with an explosion, and freezing them. I enjoy games that give me a lot of freedom to mess around with a variety of tactics, hence the Tactician half of my username. These days, I watch one too many meta videos and obsessively read Keqing Mains.

But don't get me wrong—the lore is still cool. I'm no stranger to lore-heavy games thanks to experience with the Fire Emblem series so Genshin Impact, despite the "Breath of the Wild clone" accusations, reminded me a decent amount of Fire Emblem as well. Genshin Impact may not have support conversations but almost every playable character has voicelines about certain other characters, helping me more clearly understand how these characters are perceived by the world around them. I think this lore has contributed to why headcanons are so popular and why I often watched comic dubs even in the 1.x days.

Another reason I enjoy lore and headcanons so much is I possess the Hopeless Romantic trait...which is why combined with my enjoyment of intellectual discussions, I was attracted to Sucrose—you can imagine Alberose (Albedo + Sucrose; yes, I defined it because people have largely forgotten about these two characters in favor of Chiori and Kaedehara Kazuha respectively) is one of my favorite fan-made ships. So I secretly fell in love with Alevius at first...who I will now explain.

Who is Alevius and Why Do I Love Her So Much?

Alevius and I first met in PDB, a social media site dedicated to personality types where users chat with each other in boards dedicated to types such as those in MBTI (the whole INTJ/ESFP stuff), Enneagram (numbers 1-9 with wings and those little subtype letters; e.g. 5w4 sp/sx), etc. She was helping the ENFJ board with how to communicate with INTPs better—we both share the INTP type whose most active cognitive function (basically thinking or perception style) is Introverted Thinking...which is least on the ENFJ's mind. Her main answer was to zero in on the INTP's main interests...and I provided examples because I felt generous. Little did we realize...we started a whole insane discussion about Fire Emblem and Genshin Impact. I immediately was told that Collei is the character Alevius relates the most to given their similar enthusiastic but reserved demeanor and hatred toward Dottore, the child experimenter.

So since I enjoyed the brain connection, I talked to Alevius in other ways such as tagging her when I did a personality self-evaluation. She responded with self-evaluations of her own which I thoroughly had fun with. We made essays, I tell you. I was surprised I got this much attention given that from my experience, the vast majority of young people simply do not have the "time" or brain juice to do this. I fell in love with Alevius secretly at first as a result.

To spare you the nitty-gritty details, we eventually privately discussed many other topics beyond gaming and personality. I was staying updated on Alevius's school and work life. What made her fall in love back with me was when I emotionally supported her while she was going through rough times at work, including cases of sexual harassment. She also held onto that feeling secretly at first...until she couldn't take it anymore and confessed (even though at the time, I explicitly told her I wanted a Filipino girlfriend for better accessibility). She was basically ready to die of cringe...but me returning the favor was something she did not expect at all.
And we lived happily ever after. The End. OK, just kidding. We're just getting started.

When we're not raging at each other's family issues, school, or work, we're discussing something video game-related like planning our Minecraft base and exploration, introducing a game one plays that the other doesn't (e.g. I introduced Pokémon to her), and you guessed it—Genshin Impact. Let's do it.

Share in My Meta Knowledge!

I met Alevius some time during the later 3.x patches—I can't remember when exactly. But she actually started in Version 2.0. At the time, she was mainly getting advice from one of her friends...who built her characters almost entirely with ATK% main stats on her artifacts. Even now with Alevius having significantly better meta knowledge, this friend's Neuvillette, a pure HP scaler, has ATK% all over. It was easy for Alevius's Neuvillette to out-damage her friend's since I farmed optimal Marechaussee Hunter artifacts for her.

While I admit I cringed when I first saw the pure ATK% builds on Alevius's account when I got permission to use it, I think I was polite in my criticisms, focusing on the positives of, say, the traditional ATK%/Elemental DMG/CRIT build instead of the negatives of pure ATK%. Even now, we maintain a private spreadsheet containing all the summarized info needed to grind up our characters, particularly the material requirements and artifact recommendations.

Prior to getting Alevius's account access, though, I helped Alevius every day, doing Daily Commissions and Weekly Bosses with her...using an America account belonging to someone I had a contract with—I asked permission, don't worry. This led her to save enough Primogems for C2 Zhongli...and in Version 4.0, she got C3 out of nowhere!

Aside from Zhongli, one of Alevius's best pulls ever was Arlecchino, a character she also strongly relates to because she loves children (and funny enough, she sometimes thinks of me and my friend group as a group of cute little babies to be taken care of) and has an occasionally firmly protective approach (beware if you have a Citlali-like demeanor). I built Alevius's Arlecchino with the abundance of Gladiator's Finale artifacts she farmed from bosses 'cause we both can't stand artifact Domains...and little did I know the Fourth Harbinger would turn Alevius's account from a wheelchair-stuck grandma to a destructive powerhouse.

To this day, I still happily manage Alevius's account. With Arlecchino, Neuvillette, and Tighnari fully built, it's incredibly comfortable to play compared to last year.

The Kaveh Joke Turned Insane Feat

Alevius normally can't stand some of her professors in college but feels really comfortable around me even though I can be quite strict in teaching and using English. So I jokingly challenged her to write a 1,000-word essay about why she likes Kaveh.

She churned out a...1,500-word essay detailing not just Kaveh's outfit but also his personality, life challenges, and how he overcame them. With citations too! It normally takes Alevius days to complete an essay this long but it only took her 2 hours given how enthusiastic she was about the topic! It even skyrocketed Kaveh from just being in one of her top 10-ish ranks to #1, no question!

And to think Kaveh was this garbage character full of wasted potential. I was so inspired by that essay that I once beat a combat challenge with Kaveh when I had no other choice. While the Kaveh in my own account remains unbuilt as I am hyper-focused on preparing for the Imaginarium Theater with more off-field characters, I still hold Alevius's Kaveh in high regard given how well-built he is with 7/8/7 Talents so far and how he's still in one of her signature teams.

I also try to live up to Alevius's appreciation for Kaveh by honing my own Minecraft building style. I think Alevius still loves the house I built for us earlier this 2024.

Sucrose Supremacy!

As a Sucrose simp who firmly thinks Alevius is Sucrose-like and she agrees, I am very proud that she prefers Sucrose over Kaedehara Kazuha or as we call him, Uggo.

She skipped three Uggo banners before finally pulling him in Version 5.0 out of necessity.

We staunchly believe Sucrose is superior because while Uggo is indeed a strong fighter with a calming personality, Sucrose's intelligence surpasses Uggo's given that she administers the exams in Alchemical Ascension, the potion brewing event, and I imagine she'd be able to pass those exams. The potions pack amazing utility, being able to buff all the D&D ability scores (counting Wisdom as both Intelligence and Wisdom) while containing special properties like healing and a relaxing feeling. Also, call us crazy but we can keep up with Sucrose's sciencey rambling just fine.

When running my Sucrose against my Uggo on Genshin Optimizer, I realized that my Sucrose buffs my Hu Tao more than Uggo does (even when not counting Sucrose's C6 effect) so I advised Alevius to take good care of her Sucrose. It helps that Sucrose buffs Dendro teams better than C0-C1 Uggo given the latter lacks a teamwide Elemental Mastery buff...and Dendro is one of if not Alevius's #1 favorite element.

Warning: Ship Infection Detected.

I once told Alevius that I imagine most Genshin Impact players would compare me to either Albedo or Xiao given that I give average Joes the impression of a smartypants edgelord. Alevius agreed with the Xiao part, saying that I'm always there when she calls, especially if a combat challenge needs the BRUTAL MURDER treatment.

I also find Lumine quite beautiful...so I introduced Alevius to Xiaolumi comics. Now, she's completely melted by the romance and considers this the best HoYo ship hands down. (Yeah, even better than the canon Trailblazer x Firefly in Honkai: Star Rail.)

Genshin Impact Characters I Hate That My Best Friend Likes (and Vice Versa)

Xingqiu represents me.
Collei represents Alevius.

This was inspired by two collab videos that MandJTV and Truegreen7 did about the Pokémon one hates that the other likes. (Or, rather, doesn't dislike but may be neutral toward.)

Maybe I'm crazy but I enjoy being friends with people who think similarly to me. And there are very few such people in the world—simply having Asperger's syndrome is enough to isolate me from a large group of people, especially given how hyper-individualistic I am compared to the mostly collectivist world.

To give a specific example, people with AS (and other forms of autism) have at least one special interest: something that they are extremely interested in and have deep knowledge of...which most other people don't have. Often, the special interest is a niche topic including but not limited to animals, TV shows that are unpopular or considered "inappropriate" for the person's age (e.g. Thomas the Tank Engine being enjoyed by adults with AS), and in my case, certain Genshin Impact characters. I swear that I'm one of the very few people who like Xingqiu for reasons other than the meta or shipping.

It may have taken 24 years but I'm surprised to have gotten one such friend. You may have known her from my D&D posts as Alevius, someone I met on Personality Database (PDB) who I met through a shared interest in Genshin Impact and a knack for studying things in detail. At that time, not gonna lie, I was surprised that she likes Collei: a character who was largely forgotten since she was featured in the official manga that had its last English chapter published in January 2020 (the game proper was released in September 2020). Over the months of us talking, I discovered more and more reasons that she likes Collei, including how relatable she is to Alevius and how she feels inspired and touched by the character. Combined with appreciating Bennett, Kaveh, Sucrose, and Xingqiu at somewhat similar levels to me, I thought, "She be like me for real!" Heck, I challenged her to write a 1,000-word essay about Kaveh and she churned out 1,500 in two hours—I have high standards as a teacher but I graded it an A!

But the reality is no two humans will ever be truly alike...and that's a good thing. Everyone brings different strengths to the table. I bring meta advice, a fiery passion, and a...bloodthirsty attitude when playing others' Genshin Impact accounts. Alevius brings lore expertise, emotional comfort, and Cyno-level humor.

And the differences naturally extend as well to personal preferences which I will explore in this post.

This is in no particular order.

I Like, Alevius Dislikes: Faruzan

This is a very weird one by external standards, I admit. But I relate a lot to Faruzan. We're both expert language teachers (Haravatat, Faruzan's Darshan, specializes in languages) who act a lot older than we look and have high standards for both academic performance and etiquette. We both have a "come at me, bro!" attitude when it comes to combat (based on Faruzan's combat voicelines). We're both frequently told to do something we refuse to do: Faruzan doesn't want to be a Kshahrewar scholar and I am not joining the saps who drill Mobile Legends and Apex Legends into my brain.

Alevius, on the other hand, gets reminded of her...morally questionable professors when thinking of Faruzan, I think. There's one who Alevius nicknamed the "crazy participation lady"; last I heard, she forced students to prepare for and take an exam that the students later found out was only administered to make the university look good. In other words, it's overly showy nonsense at the expense of the students' time, energy, and sanity.

Alevius also got upset at a certain other professor who raged at students and reiterated common-sense academic stuff like providing citations and complete, detailed answers. Yet...let's just say this professor isn't as competent as Faruzan in that some of Alevius's assignments have remained ungraded for months. (And I thought I was a slacker in writing my students' notes for improvement—I try to get them all done within less than 12 hours.)

But thankfully, we can agree on some things related to Faruzan. #1, we like the friendship Faruzan and Kaveh built in the Interdarshan Championship despite being opposing competitors. #2, Alevius is not intimidated by me specifically despite teaching like Faruzan and having Shenhe's temper.

Alevius Likes, I Dislike: Gorou

Alevius loves pets in general. She has a hamster, a bearded dragon, and two dogs if I remember correctly. She loved the cat petting event. Heck, her dad is a hamster nerd!

But I generally dislike dogs. As a little kid, I was terrified of them because domesticated dogs often barked at me. Sometimes, they alert an entire street's dogs in the process. I have also been chased by dogs before, both in real life and in dreams.

So I used to think it was weird that people would like these bite-happy monsters.

Even though my family already owns a dog named Oreo that follows my commands more or less, I still somewhat have a disdain for other dogs. I'm still scared of dogs in shanty areas, for example, thinking they aren't trained to calm down in front of strangers at all.

One thing Alevius and I mutually share regarding Gorou is he does not stay in the freakin' Poké Ball. We both got copy after copy of Dori in the first Chiori banner and I think we only got one Gorou each. She tried to pull Gorou back in Arataki Itto's Version 2.3 debut, for crying out loud. And I was gunning for C6 to supercharge my Noelle but I'm stuck at C5.

And another is we all dislike Yae Miko. She makes fun of Gorou, much to his disgust...and fear. Alevius and I are cheering on Gorou to help him beat that crazy fox lady...and if a physical beatdown or Genius Invokation TCG match is necessary, I'll do those too 'cause she stole what could've been a nice spotlight for Sangonomiya Kokomi in the Archon Quests.

But Sucrose is also a literal dog person! Why do you love her?

Because let's just say that in both official lore and fanon, Sucrose is shown to have much more human-like than dog-like behavior.

Gorou additionally has a tail and whimpers much like a dog when his ears are petted.

I Like, Alevius Dislikes: Jean

OK, let's get it out of the way: I mainly like Jean because she looks and acts like my mom. Both have thicc thighs. Both are physically strong. Both are staunch in their personal values. Both have a commanding personality...especially when I get treated similarly to Klee. Additionally, Mom's hairstyle is kinda similar to that of Stephanie Southerland, Jean's English VA.

Not to mention that my mom also looks like and has similar interests as my niece. Both like physical fitness, sweets, and lightning, for example. And since I compare my niece to Klee, Nahida, and the Raiden Shogun, I use those ugly nicknames plus "Jean" for my mom.

But Alevius has long suffered a curse. She had C3 Jean long before she could pull a copy of Diluc, Keqing, Qiqi, or Tighnari (and she still doesn't have the latter two (Edit: she got Tighnari for free in Version 5.0 at long last.)). She also dislikes the aforementioned commanding personality of Jean and, by extension, my mom. Alevius strongly believes that even though Klee is a chaotic little kid, she does not belong in solitary confinement.

So she rage-raised Jean a little bit in hopes of satisfying "my mom" to the point of stopping stalking Alevius's pulls. When I got Alevius's login details (with her permission, of course), I took on and finished that challenge by successfully raising Jean to Friendship 10. I then finally got Jean for the first time in Xiao's Version 4.4 rerun...along with Xiao in the same 10-pull.

Unfortunately, on April 19, 2024, I got cursed as well... While attempting to pull Neuvillette, I got C1 Jean at 83 pity. Fair enough, I slacked off again on freelance work and made Mom rage in real life.

Alevius Likes, I Dislike: Kamisato Ayato

Speaking of parents, Ayato partially reminds Alevius of her dad. Both are diplomatic and casual yet sly and witty thinkers. They generally dislike using force to get their way—I remember when Alevius's dad helped her talk it out with a guy who was desperate for her attention. Ayato similarly covertly helped Kazuha escape Inazuma and the Watatsumi Island resistance reach Tenshukaku despite these being "illegal" (but the morally right thing to do). It's also incredible to both of us how Ayato can get along with the loud and brash Arataki Itto even though they have very different personalities (INTJ and ESTP respectively) and how Alevius's dad maintains his composure around highly emotional people.

Warning, though: Alevius's dad is also very much a Cyno. Stay away from him if you value your life because he'll torture you with puns. For crying out loud, his punnery rubbed off on his daughter and I'm getting destroyed.

It's kinda weird but I mildly dislike Ayato. I agree with the general community that Ayato's Story Quest is too heavy on politics, subtlety, and talky-talky bits. Sitting through his Story Quest was a pain. But at least all's well that ends well, I guess; they ended what could've been a huge political scandal.

While Ayato and her sister Ayaka carried me through the Version 2.6 Spiral Abyss by keeping those stupid Hydro Abyss Heralds Frozen for 18 seconds (my Xingqiu was in the other half, Keqing killed my 50/50 in both Kokomi banners prior to Ayato's debut, and Mona has terrible uptime), he's just...inferior nowadays. Tartaglia enables Xiangling better with his faster Hydro application and Neuvillette deals significantly more DMG and has a humungous AoE with the 360 Hydro Pump technique. Furina and Kokomi are superior in their off-field Hydro application uptime.

Plus, Ayato shares the same Chinese and Japanese VAs as Otto Apocalypse, an antagonist of Honkai Impact 3rd who is using Honkai (a monster-creating energy that has a 100% mortality rate on those who get infected by it) to revive Kallen Kaslana. While I won't be too quick to say Ayato will turn evil, I wouldn't be surprised if he (and Luocha from Honkai: Star Rail who also shares the same VAs) did.

I Like, Alevius Dislikes: Xianyun

Yeah, I know this is once again related to cuteness. Even though we don't like how haughty Xianyun is, it's outweighed by the reason I like her: her cute stories about Ganyu when she was a baby. I thus think Xianyun is cute by extension.

And since Ganyu is sometimes portrayed by fan art as Qiqi's mom, I sometimes call my mom "Ganyu"...and my now-deceased grandma "Xianyun". Funny enough, I used to call my grandma cute when she was still alive.

Alevius Likes, I Dislike: Zhongli

Super controversial, I know. But hear me out—put down the torches and pitchforks.

To be honest...Alevius likes Zhongli for similar generic reasons as most other fans. He's super smart, silly with his seemingly perpetual lack of Mora, calm like a nice grandpa but firm when he needs to be, and has the strongest shield in the game. In fact, Alevius saved an insane number of Primogems after losing to C3 Jean and she pulled C3 Zhongli. And her original goal was C2 'cause she often supported her weaker friends in Co-Op!

At the same time, I'm glad that she's calling out Zhongli for his terrible financial management. Accountants be like.

As for me, my problems with Zhongli are small, to be honest. I used to want Zhongli back in Version 1.1 but when I realized how he's a DPS loss compared to hyper-focusing on offensive elemental reactions, I got used to playing without Zhongli and am sweeping through Spiral Abyss cycles. I admit, however, that I have a mild disdain for those who put Zhongli in every team ever (even despite them constantly switching their other three characters) since I see it as a "skill issue". I'm trying to work on accepting it as a personal preference or a legitimate reason to compensate for one's lack of dexterity; it's unfair to impose pro gamer standards on others.

To make things easier for Alevius when she plays my account, I raised my Layla: another character she relates to.

Conclusion

Even though we dislike some Genshin Impact characters for varying reasons, some bigger than others and reflecting different personal values, it's still amazing how Alevius and I have a lot in common and can respect each other's differences. It's just a game at the end of the day and we connect with each other in other ways like a shared commitment to making the world a smarter and more interconnected place.

Plus, we can always agree that Arlecchino, Bennett, Collei, Firefly, Huohuo, Kaveh, Luka, Nahida, Sucrose, Tighnari, and Xingqiu are amazing while Alhaitham, Aventurine, Chiori, Dottore, Kafka, Keqing, Kujou Sara, Lisa, Sparkle, the Wanderer, and Yae Miko can go jump off a cliff. Make sure the Wanderer's Elemental Skill is disabled, by the way.

Bonus: I Like, Alevius Dislikes: Acheron

OK, I mostly like Acheron because she's the Raiden Mei expy of Honkai: Star Rail and much like the Raiden Shogun, Acheron's favorite food is something sweet: peaches. I love that Gimnaeng video where Acheron wandered off to Sumeru and Nahida fed her a Zaytun Peach. Since my niece also likes swords, I think Acheron is cute...and I bought peaches for my niece IRL.

Alevius be like, "PUT ON SOME PROPER CLOTHES!"

(Part 1/3) A Summary of My Asperger's Syndrome - Lack of Social Understanding

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Disclaimer: I am not a psychologist. My case of Asperger's syndrome is different from others'.

A lack of social understanding, limited ability to have a reciprocal conversation, and an intense interest in a particular subject are the core features of [Asperger's syndrome].

- Tony Attwood, The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome, 2007, p. 12

That sentence above is what I lazily (怠惰に/たいだに) tell most people because for me, Asperger's syndrome is so complex and full of different "parts" that I could talk about this for hours.

But having one or more of these traits (katangian; 特徴/とくちょう) show in normal people (普通な人) can happen, especially in this time of social media addiction.

So what makes me different from these normal people? These traits are much stronger in me. And I will explain them in more detail.

Tara, turuan kita. それでは、説明しましょう。

—

Sticker from Genshin Impact

Often, I don't know what to do when talking to people.

I see a group of classmates or coworkers joking around and I either don't know how to join in or I'm just not interested.

Speaking of "not interested", people with Asperger's syndrome are direct. I usually don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but I just can't 100% "stop" being direct. From my point of view (POV; pananaw; 観点/かんてん), telling the truth lets people clearly understand what I think so they won't get confused. Hindi sila malilito. 難しくないですね。

I also have super strong morals (道徳/どうとく). A good example is I like writing paragraphs to people because I believe it makes me honest and hardworking. I think simple replies (単純な返事/たんじゅんなへんじ) like "ok" (intentional bad grammar) are lazy and rude.

An example of someone I can't make friends with because of my morals are people who drink too much alcohol and/or smoke. Yes, I know drinking parties/inuman/飲み会 are important in the Philippines and Japan but I just don't care. I hate the taste and the bad health effects of alcohol and cigarettes.

Many people, however, are not direct. It takes me a long time to, for example, see if someone is not interested in talking to me anymore since they're so good at pretending to be interested.